She is getting thinner day by day, seems crankier day by day, becoming quieter day by day. These are the things her parents noticed, but they failed to notice her shattered eyes. All she heard is “you are going to be fine”, “everything is going to be okay”, and “don’t be a spoiled brat”.
He is losing focus, he is not hanging out with his friends anymore, his thoughts are choking his throat and want to come out of his eyes, but hush! hush! you are a boy and you are not allowed to cry, society will mark you weak. You are a boy you are not allowed to be emotional and share your sad feelings, boys are meant to be strong!
And there are many other untold stories just roaming around us with expressionless eyes and we are too busy in double tapping on someone else whom we don’t even know. The people are different, the age and gender are different, the situations are different and obviously the reasons are different but the problem? The problem is same- Depression.
Depression is a mental health condition that is an overwhelming feeling of sadness and isolation which affects one’s thoughts and fills it with negativity. And that is a really tough stage to be in. In this generation, we see depression is very common. It is treatable through proper treatment and therapy. We often just scorn depression by saying “it’s just a phase” and “they will be fine”, yeah, they will be fine but not without our help. They will be fine eventually, with our love and support.
At these times they don’t need your advice, they need your ear which is eager to hear their thoughts and feelings, they need your shoulder to lean on and your hand to hold them and make them believe that you are there to help them in this helpless situation and help them to defeat this depression. As the famous author, Shannon L. Alder says, “Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When “I” is replaced by “We”, illness becomes wellness.” All that patient need is help.
In today’s superficial life, most of the times we don’t live for ourselves, we live to show other people that what are we living; we don’t smile for ourselves, we smile for selfies. We live two different lives, offline and online. But alas! We don’t have offline filters to cover our flaws and shortcomings, and from that’s where the depression makes its way into our lives.
To be happy and content, we need to understand that everyone is different and it’s okay to have flaws and drawbacks! Don’t underestimate yourself and think others to be better off than you, everyone is different and comparing your life with others is the dumbest thing to do. Appreciate yourself, encourage yourself, love yourself, celebrate your victories and see the changes in your life, small acts of self-love prove to be wonder. Love yourself a little more every day, and ask yourself constantly that – if you don’t love yourself, then who will?? Depression tries to demolish your guts and confidence but don’t let it defeat you, but fight it back with proper treatment and lots of self-love; as it’s worth it to be happy and you deserve to be happy.
Symptoms of depression
- feeling sad or having a depressed mood or crying a lot,
- loss of interest or please in activities once enjoyed,
- loss or gain weight,
- sleeping too much or insomnia,
- loss of energy,
- social isolation,
- thoughts of death or suicide.
To cure depression, one must take professional help. The treatment of the patients may vary. Therefore, some solutions to cure depression are-
- psychotherapy therapy or talk therapy to calm the person emotionally,
- antidepressant medications, sometimes both are used depending on the patient’s condition.
Natural remedies to beat depression
- embrace yourself and your life,
- read a positive, mood uplifting book,
- eat healthy,
- laugh out loud,
- do something creative, like drawing, write a poem or story, try origami,
- surround yourself with the people you love,
- listen to upbeat music,
- get a pet,
- do yoga.
Lastly, the most important thing is to have an eye in your family, in your friend circle. Try to see if there is anyone who is suffering from depression. If the answer is yes, then help them. If you think that you’re suffering from depression then do go to a psychologist. You don’t have to be quiet about it, having depression is okay, getting therapy is okay. It’s not wrong no matter what people say. Since mental health is as important as physical health. So don’t just sit there, go and get professional help. And if you are seeing someone suffering from depression then don’t say anything negative to them. Take them to a professional, show them your empathy, not just sympathy.